Wednesday, May 19, 2010

"Mallory Ann!!"

Brent J Duncan.
  What can I say about one of the greatest men I have ever known? He lived such a great life, and so many things I didn't even know about him. I love that we as a family had the opportunity to gather together and reminisce on his wonderful life. We are laughers in our family. We just laugh. We're good at it, and very loud. It was so great to not have that stop because of the circumstances. Are we sad he is gone? Yes we most definitely are, but I know he would not want us to be sitting in a room crying all day. He would want us to carry on how we always do. Laughing, loving, and telling a good story. Which is exactly what we got to do. Even at his funeral we as a family took turns telling our favorite stories, and telling the things we will miss the most. What an amazing opportunity.
   Was I surprised that it happened so quickly? Yes. Yes I was. This is how it was supposed to work out for him. Cancer is tough. Sometimes you survive, sometimes you can't. He did EVERYTHING he could to buy us more time as family. We bonded more than we have in years. I will NEVER forget the memories we made. He fought until the end, but once we knew it wasn't looking good. It was good that it went quickly. Better than him suffering for months on end. This is how we wanted it. No matter how much my heart aches for him, I know that he is in a much better place. I know he is with Wes and they are having a grand time! I am SO grateful for the Plan of Salvation. I know with everything that I am that I will see my grandpa again. Maybe not as quickly as I would like, but I will one day see him again. We will laugh again, he will tease me again. he will whistle, will he, will he... Yes he will! Heavenly Father's plan is the only true and correct plan. Having faith and trusting in him is our trial here on Earth. Live like we we're dying. Kris Allen. This song will always be with me. It will remind me of our last Christmas all together. Of not being afraid to say I love you. To live in the moments of life and not be afraid of our next step.
  My grandpa taught me many amazing lessons in my life. The last one he left me with was to not worry about getting married. It would happen when its supposed to. To have faith and keeping doing what i'm doing. How inspired of him to know that that very subject has been on my mind. He taught me to have adventure. To work hard, don't be afraid to do something new, go for what my heart wants, be true to who I am, and to always always give 100% efforts. The most important thing he could leave me with is the sense of family. Family is everything. In the end.. its all we really have. We were put together in this small family for a reason. We are to learn and grow together through all of our experiences. Never turn your back on your family. Stand by them, hold onto them, but don't take them for granted.
Grandpa, I love you! I miss you. I know where you are and that i will see you again. Have fun four wheeling with your brothers, Uncle Wes and whoever else will be with you! We will do you proud here as we continue with life. You will always be with me, no matter where I go. Love you, forever and always,
 Mallory Ann...

4 comments:

tifsong said...

what a great note for your grandpa! and isn't it such a blessing to have the reassurance of eternity under our belts? yes, i daresay it is. love you!

Burlene said...

Thanks for another cry Mal! The first for the day....Yes, I've been having a bawling fest for the past 3 weeks.

Grandpa has left us with so much.
You are wonderful!

Micah Goode said...

you are amazing!
thanks for this post!
i love you so much!
we will miss grandpa so much!

Rach said...

Sounds like an awesome man! :o)